“Love is when two hearts find their happy place right beside each other.—Anonymous

Valentine’s Day Ideas

Celebration is no small matter. It’s a powerful practice in all areas of life.

Parents celebrate the little things their kids do. Teams celebrate their wins. People celebrate birthdays, holidays, and so on. 

Yet so many couples struggle to celebrate their marriage. 

Aside from your anniversary, it may seem like there aren’t many opportunities to celebrate the victories of your relationship. 

If you feel like Valentine’s Day is just a “Hallmark holiday,” you’re not alone. 

But it’s time to reframe your perspective of Valentine’s Day into something more meaningful. 

Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be a lackluster holiday. In fact, it can be so much more than roses and chocolates. 

Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to celebrate your marriage intentionally. 

First, look at your 6 Pillars of Intimacy®. This includes your emotional, physical, financial, spiritual, recreational, and sexual intimacy. 

Then, consider what actions would resonate with your spouse. Better yet, ask them! 

Valentine’s Day is a time to love on your spouse and celebrate who they are and what they mean to you. 

This day can be more than just dinner, a card, or sex. It can incorporate multiple Pillars of Intimacy and be something that your spouse really finds special. 

If you’re looking for ideas to make this Valentine’s Day memorable for you and your spouse, the ONE Family has you covered. 

For emotional intimacy, the ONE Family suggests writing a sweet love note to your spouse, talking together, and being fully present. Don’t underestimate the gift of being present! 

When it comes to physical intimacy, couples in the ONE Family enjoy holding hands, sharing an extra long kiss, or even parking in a remote location to make out. 

A great way to engage your financial intimacy for Valentine’s Day is to discuss your finances before buying any gifts. In fact, staying within budget can be incredibly meaningful for your spouse if finances tend to stress them out. 

For spiritual intimacy, consider saying a prayer of gratitude for your spouse and what they mean to you. As you’ll read in The 6 Pillars of Intimacy®, spiritual intimacy can be even more vulnerable than sex. 

Valentine’s Day is a great excuse to engage your recreational intimacy. Ultimately, couples in the ONE Family say that a thoughtful, planned date is what matters. You could spend time outdoors, eat lunch in the park, sit by a fire, or simply just laugh together. For more creative date ideas, check out the Date Night Done Right guide!

Finally, you can celebrate your sexual intimacy on Valentine’s Day by trying a new position or initiating sex with a romantic gesture. Expressing desire for your spouse can be a simple but meaningful way to connect. 

If you’ve been ignoring Valentine’s Day recently, this might be your year to approach it in a new way. For example, view it as a special day to celebrate your spouse and the love you share. 

If Valentine’s Day is already a favorite day for the two of you, use the 6 Pillars of Intimacy® framework to get specific about what wins you can celebrate. 

Whether it’s Valentine’s Day or any other special day, don’t let the chance to celebrate your marriage pass you by. Celebrate every win, big or small. Your love story is worth celebrating! 


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