890: Unwrap Me…Keep Sex Fun During the Holidays
“Everyone (that means every spouse) likes to feel special and desired.” —Alisa DiLorenzo
Sex doesn’t stop being important just because the holidays get busy. But for most couples, it ends up on the back burner this time of year.
Within the ONE Family…
- 71% of you said holiday stress causes your sex life to cool down
- 77% of you said you feel exhausted—not flirty—this time of year
Here are some of the top challenges that make sexual intimacy harder during the holidays:
- Kids’ bedtimes and being home from school or college
- No time or energy
- Holiday prep pressure
- Lack of privacy, especially with extended family around
- Not making us a priority
It’s easy to feel tired, overwhelmed, and disconnected this time of year.
But here’s what happens when sex falls off the calendar: Physical distance leads to emotional distance. Then, resentment starts to grow. As a result, sexual frustration creates tension that spills into every area of your marriage.
On the flip side, couples who keep sexual intimacy a priority during this season (however small!) feel more connected, more playful, and more willing to initiate.
Here are 5 ideas to unwrap your sexual intimacy during the holidays:
- Discuss your feelings about sex right now. What’s working and what’s not?
- Schedule some “Holiday Intimacy Time.” Don’t wait for the perfect moment; make it the perfect moment! Enjoy shower sex, go on a walk-and-talk, or put the phones away early and just cuddle.
- Do an “Unwrap Me” Challenge. Build anticipation with a flirty text, new lingerie, or initiate in a new way.
- Reclaim your privacy. For example: lock your door, sneak away for alone time, or book a hotel room to reconnect.
- Flirt daily. Meaningful touches, compliments, and secret looks keep you connected emotionally, physically, and sexually.
The holiday season might feel like a pressure cooker, but sex can still be fun! All it takes is a little intentionality.
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