896: More Than Roses and Romance
“Romance isn’t about getting it right for one day—it’s about choosing each other in small ways, over time.” —Anonymous
Does Valentine’s Day feel like a Hallmark holiday?
This one day can bring up so many emotions: pressure, disappointment, comparison. It might feel like any other day. Or maybe you love the romance and excitement.
Here’s the thing: Valentine’s Day is a mirror. It reflects how connected or disconnected you actually feel in your marriage.
While some couples brace for disappointment or keep their expectations low, many spouses are quietly hoping for quality time, sexual intimacy, or positive attention.
Ultimately, they want to feel seen and valued. There’s no dollar amount attached to that. No Hallmark card required.
So what if Valentine’s Day became an invitation to talk, connect, and share expectations?
It could be as simple as telling your spouse how Valentine’s Day feels for you. Try this phrase: “When Valentine’s Day comes around, I usually feel ______.”
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Here’s another valuable question to ask and answer: “In this season, what would make you feel most loved?” It could be time, words, touch, or something you never would have imagined. Stop guessing and just ask.
And if Valentine’s Day brings too much pressure or stress, plan something small: a meal, a walk, a night without distractions. Let go of the idea that Valentine’s Day needs to be perfect. Instead, choose to hear your spouse’s responses, process what you can do, and actually take action.
This season is about so much more than roses and romance.
But it starts by taking an honest look at what this holiday reveals about what’s really happening in your marriage.
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