917: Connection Multiplier
“Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together.” —Vincent van Gogh
Hear this and take a deep sigh: Most couples don’t need to overhaul their marriage.
You might not even need an expensive weekend away or hour-long talks every night.
What you probably need is way simpler than that… and it’s already happening in your house today.
There’s power in amplifying what’s already going well.
Amplification in marriage is all about taking what already exists in your marriage and giving it more presence, more meaning, and more attention.
You don’t have to wait for life to slow down or for your spouse to do something. Pick one small thing.
For us, it was looking in each other’s eyes to talk instead of yelling from across the room. And the shift was palpable for both of us. We felt more of the connection, and we felt the shift within ourselves.
For you, it might be as simple as putting your phone down when you’re speaking with your spouse. Or it might include having a weekly money meeting.
You can multiply your connection when you keep small moments meaningful instead of waiting for big gestures… or waiting for your spouse to do something.
Here are 4 simple ways to amplify your connection this week:
- Notice your existing points of connection. The goodbye kiss, the text during the day, the drive to church… where are you already connecting?
- Add five seconds. Hold the hug a little longer. Actually listen to the answer when you ask about their day. Wait five more seconds before you pick up the phone.
- Choose one pillar to amplify this week. Maybe you need to ask a better question to build emotional intimacy or focus on non-sexual touch for a day to boost your physical intimacy.
- Say what you noticed. Pay attention to what feels different and tell your spouse so you can build the momentum.
The good news is your marriage might not need a whole reset. Instead, taking a little action yourself creates more intentional moments of connection that build up to an extraordinary marriage.
Amplification doesn’t have to stop with your own marriage. Once you start seeing what a little more intention can do in your relationship, you have something worth giving away.
That’s exactly what The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® Certified Coaching Program is for… it equips you to amplify the Pillars within your community, your church, and other couples around you. If you have ever felt the nudge to help another couple find that same connection, learn more about becoming a Certified Coach today.
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