928: When You Want a Better Sex Life
“Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.” —Henry Ford
When you say, “I want a better sex life,” what does your spouse hear?
You may be asking for more initiation, romance, foreplay or connection, while your spouse hears, “You aren’t good enough.”
When one spouse wants this part of the marriage to grow and the other says, “I think we’re fine,” the disconnect can leave one feeling neglected and the other feeling pressured.
In this episode of the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show, we explain why a better sex life is not simply about having sex more often.
Watch the Full Episode
Tune in for an honest conversation from our own marriage about how to:
- Identify when your approach to initiation has become too routine
- Define what “better” means in your current season
- Hear your spouse’s desire without becoming defensive
You’ll learn how to listen in a healthy way, ask what needs to change, and choose one intentional action instead of letting the conversation disappear.
If resentment, hurt or repeated shutdowns have made it difficult to discuss your Sexual Intimacy Pillar, marriage coaching can help you bridge the gap and find your way toward one another.
Your 6 Pillars Episode Takeaways
- “Better” needs a definition. More sex may not be what you’re actually asking for. You may be missing initiation, romance, foreplay or connection.
- Neglect and pressure feed each other. One spouse feels alone in trying while the other feels criticized, creating even more distance.
- A conversation needs an action. Talking about your sex life matters, but change begins when each spouse chooses one intentional next step.
If you already know what you want to change but the two of you cannot talk about it without shutting down or arguing, marriage coaching can help.
You may not need another idea for your sex life. You may need help identifying what is happening underneath the disconnect and creating a strategy you can both follow.
Resources
The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® Certified Coaching Program
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