About Us

Welcome and thank you for taking the time to stop by and learn about what makes us so passionate about what we do and why we’ve chosen this path. We believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together.

What has taken us on this journey, you ask?

Well, a combination of things. Both bumps in the road and a ton of work… and recognizing that valuing our marriage means giving it time and attention (and a lot of TLC) so it grows and flourishes.

Our story isn’t one for the history books, but it has brought us to this place of knowing and sharing. Relationships evolve and ours is no exception.

As a result of this journey, we created ONE Extraordinary Marriage to educate, entertain, encourage, and inspire you to have mind-blowing intimacy and a deep-level connection in your marriage.

Whether you listen to our podcast, read our articles, or connect with us through social media, we hope that ONE Extraordinary Marriage enhances your marriage and gives you the tools to make your marriage the absolute best it can be.

Our Story

We have been married since 1996 and not all of them have been happy ones. Like you, we came together with every good intention and “forever” in mind, but then “life” happened and we found ourselves ill prepared to deal with our marriage challenges.

Not only were we struggling as a couple, but also we were both struggling with our own personal hurdles independent of one another. Our “bumps in the road” were actually mountains in our eyes and we knew that in order to get to the other side, keep our family together, and experience a loving, intimate marriage, we were going to need to dig deep and address our circumstances head-on.

Dealing with it all was our commitment to each other. Together, we overcame Tony’s 18-year addiction to pornography, the loss of a child at 18 weeks, debt in excess of $50,000, poor communication, lack of collective interests, and questioning trust. But, the key word here is “together”.

We’ve learned some hard knock life lessons and we’ve discovered key principles that have kept our marriage (and sex life) alive and flourishing… and we did it together. We can do the same for you!

Listen Here as Tony and Alisa tell their story.


What do you think of when you hear that word? Your answer to this question directly reflects the level of intimacy in your relationship. We believe that sex and intimacy are key components to a healthy and thriving marriage.

We are the energetic parents of two children. Our kids truly bless our lives, but they also add a layer of contention to our marriage. It can be hard to be intimate when kids are underfoot. Do you find this is happening to you as well?  We can teach you some tricks to find quality intimacy time.

Being fit and healthy and the associated intimacy it brings to our relationship has helped us through good times and bad. Our hiking escapades early in our marriage led us to the three highest peaks in Southern California, backpacking treks in Yosemite, Sequoia and Kings Canyon, Death Valley, as well as fun-filled dates along the beach or resorts closer to home.

It was in these deeply intimate and raw experiences that we grew closer and increased our awareness of just how important these couple excursions and commitment to our health and wellness could be to our romantic intimacy.

We are proud to share that a few of the things we are known for is the 60 Days of Sex Challenge which completely turned our marriage around and the 7 Days of Sex Challenges we sponsor for other married couples. It’s through these two programs that ONE Extraordinary Marriage has taken ownership of the importance of sex and connection.

Our Amazon Best Seller, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to an Extraordinary Marriage, helps you to strengthen your pillars so you can have the extraordinary marriage you desire. Even the best marriages can have cracks in their relationships. The difference is that extraordinary couples take action when they see those cracks happening.

Join us on this intimate journey.


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