[INFOGRAPH] HOW BOUNDARIES ENGENDER TRUST

It may sound backwards at first, but the data is clear — couples who have defined, shared boundaries regarding interactions with people of the opposite sex have fewer trust issues than those who don’t.

Think of it like installing a fence around the backyard before letting young kids out to play. The fence sets a perimeter that both keeps out unwanted dangers while allowing kids the freedom to know what space is safe for unrestricted fun.

450: THOSE BODILY FUNCTIONS

“Never trust a girl who doesn’t fart, you don’t know what else she’s holding back from you.” — Anonymous

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We know that even reading about this topic makes some people feel uncomfortable. And if you and your spouse feel exactly the same way about your bodily functions you don’t need to read on.

However, in just about every marriage there’s one spouse who feels more private about certain functions than their spouse, and if left unresolved, this can result in significant loss of intimacy.

449: WHAT DID YOU SAY?

“Words are free, it’s how you use them that may cost you.” —Anonymous

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When a couple is first dating both gals and guys tend to be hyper-aware of their communication — analyzing word choice, pauses and body language. Perhaps reading too far between the lines, we attempt to decipher intention and underlying emotions behind the words.

And then after some amount of time into marriage, the tables are turned and we forget to consider our spouse’s perspective when we speak. Especially during tension we speak from a selfish place, and rather than seeking to build up our spouse we cut them down.