536: I DO MORE THAN YOU

“The minute you start keeping score you’re destroying the relationship.” —Tony Robbins

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Do you keep score in your marriage? Maybe something along the lines of “I do more than you” or “you never do this”? Like it or not, you’re keeping score. Maybe without even realizing it. 

Is this normal behavior? Yes.

535: LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 4 — AFTER HAVING KIDS

“You’re not learning anything unless you are having the difficult conversations.” —Gwyneth Paltrow

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Kids change everything in a marriage. 

It doesn’t matter if you gave birth to your kids or adopted them sex after kids changes. It’s normal to feel that your sex life after kids was worse than before kids came along. 

534: SNIP SNIP IT’S TIME FOR A VASECTOMY

“Life presents many choices, the choices we make determine our future.” —Catherine Pulsifer

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What happens when you’re done having kids and want to make sure that you never have another one? Well, you’re left with a decision. 

Does he get a vasectomy or does she get a tubal ligation?

533: LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 3 — WITH OUR FRIENDS

“Not every part of your personal life needs to be public.” Anonymous

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There are so many people in our lives that we could talk about our sex life with and yet each one seems to have its own set of rules and own potential pitfalls. The idea of talking (or not) about intimacy with your friends or family gets a lot of reactions. 

While talking about sex may not be a big deal, if you haven’t had a conversation about what’s okay and what’s not okay to discuss, you’re setting yourself up for potential heartache and argument.