450: THOSE BODILY FUNCTIONS

“Never trust a girl who doesn’t fart, you don’t know what else she’s holding back from you.” — Anonymous

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We know that even reading about this topic makes some people feel uncomfortable. And if you and your spouse feel exactly the same way about your bodily functions you don’t need to read on.

However, in just about every marriage there’s one spouse who feels more private about certain functions than their spouse, and if left unresolved, this can result in significant loss of intimacy.

449: WHAT DID YOU SAY?

“Words are free, it’s how you use them that may cost you.” —Anonymous

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When a couple is first dating both gals and guys tend to be hyper-aware of their communication — analyzing word choice, pauses and body language. Perhaps reading too far between the lines, we attempt to decipher intention and underlying emotions behind the words.

And then after some amount of time into marriage, the tables are turned and we forget to consider our spouse’s perspective when we speak. Especially during tension we speak from a selfish place, and rather than seeking to build up our spouse we cut them down.

448: WORKING OUT FORGIVENESS

“Don’t let the past limit the future.” —Anonymous

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Many people don’t think that they struggle with forgiveness, especially as it pertains to marriage. Just because you aren’t currently suffering from feelings of resentment towards your spouse doesn’t mean that your “forgiveness muscle” has no work to be done.

Are you lacking joy in your marriage? Do you struggle with past hurts from parents, friends, previous relationships? Do you find it easy to say “I forgive you”, but hard to leave it all behind you?

447: MAKE INTIMACY A PRIORITY

“Great things never come from inside the comfort zone.” —Anonymous

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It’s one thing to say your marriage is a top priority for you (and since you’re reading this post, it probably is). It’s something else entirely when you commit to improving specific areas of your marriage with accountability.

Have you discussed with your spouse what their sexual desires are at this stage of your life? What are you doing about it?