441: CRITICAL FEEDBACK

“Giving honest and well intended feedback is often confused with being mean. It’s not mean. It’s nice.” —Robert Kiyosaki

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Good feedback is like good discipline. The process is not often pleasant, but it yields immensely fruitful results. Poorly communicated feedback is like rotten food — good for nothing and can make you sick.

Rather than dig into all of the horror stories of spouses tearing each other down, we’re going to focus on how to lovingly and effectively communicate critical feedback to your spouse.

440: WHAT MEN GET FROM FOREPLAY

“Don’t rush through foreplay. Play with each other until you can’t take it anymore.” —Anonymous

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Foreplay is probably a lot more than what comes to mind when you hear the word.

It is the emotional and physical intimate acts between husband and wife meant to create sexual arousal and desire for sexual activity.

439: STOP SERVING THOSE LEFTOVERS

“Most couples make the mistake of giving each other the remains of the day. The leftover time after every other relationship and task has been attended to. This is not only backwards, but destructive. Stellar partners give each other prime time, and make each other their top priority.” — Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

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Your schedule is so busy and stressful that by the time you and your spouse are both off work, kids are in bed, the house is picked up and other obligations have been taken care of, you just don’t have much left to give to your spouse.

You’re spent at the end of the day.

438: DO THE OPPOSITE

“In order to carry a positive action we must develop here a positive vision.” —Dalai Lama

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When conflict or tension arises, human instinct is to switch into self-preservation mode.

Someone hurts us, we close ourselves off. We overspend and then attempt to cover it up.