Christmas is that time of year when you place that special present under the Christmas tree, waiting patiently for your spouse to open it with all their excitement.

All your searching comes down to this one day for you to enjoy giving something special. This year how about doing something a little different. How about having some fun as you lead up to Christmas with your very own 12 Days of Christmas.

If you need that perfect gift for under the tree we have a number of Christmas gift idea guides for you below.

DS 092: What is the Best Way to Lovingly Explain What I Would Like My Wife to Wear When it Comes to Our Sexual Intimacy?

Discussing your sex life is not a one and done conversation. Healthy marriages talk about their sexual intimacy and all its many aspects on a regular basis.

Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.


“The only thing better than having an orgasm? Having another orgasm.” —Anonymous


There aren’t a lot of hard-numbers on this topic due to the private and self-reported nature, but 45% of married women and 20% of married men say that they can have multiple orgasms in a given sexual encounter (see more stats like that here).

Everyone’s body, preferences and experiences are different. For Tony and Alisa, we spent the first five years of marriage with Alisa faking orgasms.