Christian Marriage Coaching

Christian marriage coaching is marriage coaching with someone who shares your faith, so you can bring prayer and Scripture into the conversation as common ground you both already hold. The process is the same structured coaching Alisa DiLorenzo built around the 6 Pillars of Intimacy®. Faith changes what the conversation can draw on, and coaching still handles the same things it always has.

What Changes When Your Coach Shares Your Faith

A coach who shares your faith already knows what you mean when you call your marriage a covenant. You can start there, with a promise made before God as well as to each other. That belief becomes part of why the work is worth doing when the marriage feels stuck.

Prayer can open a session, or come up naturally when a couple is deciding how to move forward. Scripture works the same way. You both already understand it without explanation, and so does a coach who holds it too. When she names a familiar passage, you both know what she means, and nobody has to stop and explain it first.

A coach who has worked with other Christian couples also knows that belief looks different from one couple to the next. Some pray daily and attend church every week. Others hold the same core faith more loosely. Two people raised in the same church can see something as small as how to mark a holiday very differently. The same can be true of something as large as how the two of you make decisions at home. A good coach asks early on how each of you sees your faith today, and how strongly you each hold it, before she suggests a way forward. Then the plan fits your actual marriage.

Spiritual intimacy is one of the 6 Pillars for this reason. When you pray together, worship together, and talk openly about doubt, you build a closeness that helps you get through hard seasons together. You can read more in the guide to spiritual intimacy. A coach who shares that language can talk with you about where spiritual intimacy has gone quiet without you explaining it from scratch.

What Faith Does Not Change

A Christian coach is still not a therapist. Coaching does not treat mental illness, addiction, or trauma, and that stays true no matter how strong your shared faith is. When a marriage shows signs of anxiety, depression, or a pattern that keeps repeating without improving, a licensed counselor or therapist belongs in the picture alongside coaching.

The same is true for trust rebuilding and pornography. Both call for real support, and a shared faith is not a substitute for it. A coach can keep walking with you through both, while also naming when a licensed counselor should be part of the picture too.

Coaching is built for couples who are safe with each other, whatever your faith looks like. A marriage covenant made before God is not a reason to stay in a home where you are afraid, controlled, or coerced. If that describes your marriage, or if either of you is having thoughts of suicide, that call comes first: the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, or 988 by call or text if either of you is thinking about suicide.

A coach also has limits, faith or no faith. She cannot want your marriage more than you and your spouse want it. If one of you is not willing to engage, praying about it together will not substitute for that person’s own choice to show up for the work.

How Coaching Sits Alongside a Pastor

A pastor and a coach serve a Christian couple in different ways. A pastor offers spiritual counsel, prayer, and the support of your church community. A coach brings a structured process, the 6 Pillars framework, and a clear path from a first conversation to a concrete next step each week. Many couples benefit from both at once.

Pastors already send couples toward this kind of coaching on purpose. Several pastors have gone through certification in the 6 Pillars of Intimacy® framework themselves. They wanted a structured way to prepare engaged couples for marriage, and to support the couples already in their church. The same holds once a couple is already married.

A coach, for her part, will point a couple back to their pastor and their church for the kind of ongoing spiritual support a weekly coaching session cannot cover. If you want a place to start that conversation with your spouse tonight, look at the Bible verses people turn to in a hard marriage. It is a good page to read together.

How to Find a Christian Marriage Coach

The marriage coaching page explains how working with Alisa starts. You meet your coach. You fill out an application that helps both of you and Alisa see what has brought you to this point. Then you have a first coaching session built around your answers. Alisa’s own faith and the 6 Pillars framework shape how she works with couples who want that shared ground.

The same page also links to a directory of coaches certified in the 6 Pillars of Intimacy® framework. The site describes it as a way to find personalized support for the places your marriage feels stuck. If you want a coach near you, or one who fits your church background more closely, that directory is the place to look.

Every coach listed there has trained in the same framework, so the process stays consistent from one coach to the next. Faith is one of the things worth asking about directly when you first reach out to a coach. Ask how she works with Christian couples, whether she opens sessions with prayer if you want that, and how she has handled disagreement over a belief in the past. A coach who has done this work before can answer all three plainly, with examples from couples she has worked with.

Your Next Step for Today

If a shared faith is part of what you want in a coach, talk with your spouse tonight about what that would add for the two of you. Then read through the marriage coaching page together, and look at the certified-coach directory linked from it if you want options beyond Alisa. If you are dealing with fear, control, or any safety concern in your marriage, that comes first, and the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233.