CHRISTMAS 7 DAY SEX CHALLENGE

The holiday season is here. Busy schedules, travel plans, and family gatherings tend to take center stage during this time. For many couples, that means pushing sexual intimacy to the back burner. But what if this year could be different with a Christmas sex challenge?

What is a Sex Challenge?

A sex challenge is a fun, intentional way for you to prioritize sexual intimacy in your marriage, even amidst holiday chaos. It’s not just about sex; it’s about strengthening your closeness and connection (in other words, intimacy) in every area of your relationship. According to the ONE Family, 76% of couples find sexual intimacy especially challenging during the holidays. A Christmas sex challenge helps you:

• Break out of the routine by adding excitement and creativity.
• Discover new things about yourself, your spouse, and your marriage.
• Stay close and connected during the busy holiday season instead of becoming irritated or disconnected.

It’s an opportunity to assess your 6 Pillars of Intimacy® since they all interconnect. And when you strengthen one pillar, it can positively affect the others. It can take place anytime, so choose a timeframe that works best for you that you can commit to. For example…

• December 19–25: End your challenge with a bang! on Christmas Day.
• December 25–31: Start on Christmas and ring in the new year with deeper intimacy.

Whatever dates you pick, ensure you and your spouse have time to follow through. This could be the most meaningful gift you give each other this year!

The Christmas 7 Day Sex Challenge

In our book 7 Days of Sex Challenge: How to Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage, we offer a full game plan with ideas and inspiration to make your sex challenge a success. For Christmas, there are some extra festive things you can do to make your sex challenge extraordinary:

1. A New Position

• Try a playful new position—or move to a new part of your room
• Gift yourselves a new sex toy or sex furniture to spice things up
• Incorporate festive pillows or blankets to adjust your angles

2. Old and New Memories

• Reminisce on past Christmases to build emotional intimacy
• Laugh about gifts gone wrong or other silly holiday memories
• Recreate a meaningful Christmas tradition

3. The Quickie

• Sneak away during a holiday party for a sexy rendezvous
• Enjoy steamy shower sex to avoid interruptions
• Lock your door while “wrapping presents”

4. Think Outside Your Bedroom

• Have sex by your Christmas tree
• Make out by the fireplace
• Enjoy some alone time in the kitchen or living room

5. Relish the Romance

• Steal a kiss while walking around a Christmas light display
• Dance together to your favorite Christmas song
• Plan a romantic Christmas date

6. What to Wear

• Surprise your spouse by wearing a sexy new outfit or lingerie
• Gift your spouse something you’d love to see them wear
• Wrap yourself as a gift wearing nothing but a big, red bow

7. Going Deeper

• Pray together over your sex life
• Express gratitude for who your spouse is and all that they do
• Cast a vision of what you want your Sexual Intimacy Pillar to look like in the new year

Remember to have fun, communicate honestly, and stay flexible. If something doesn’t go according to plan, make a new plan! The goal is to make your spouse and your sexual intimacy a priority, even when your holiday calendar seems out of control.

Frequently Asked Questions About the Christmas Sex Challenge

What if we have kids or family staying with us?

In the ONE Family, 68% of you say being with family keeps you from being intimate during the holidays. It’s a common challenge, but there are plenty of solutions to try. From sound machines to having sex at different times of the day (or different locations!), it’s important to talk with your spouse about what adjustments you can make to stay committed to your Christmas sex challenge.

What if we miss a day? 

Expand your definition of sexual intimacy. It’s more than just intercourse. Romance, initiation, foreplay, and intercourse all count toward your sex challenge. And if you completely miss a day? That’s okay! Take an extra day to finish and stay focused on the goal.

Does planning sex kill the excitement?

Not at all! Scheduling sex builds anticipation. Knowing you’ll connect later in the day creates excitement and can spark creativity in how you initiate, engage, and explore new things together.

We Did It! Now What?

Congratulations! Whether this was your first challenge or one of many, you’ve taken a powerful step to prioritize your marriage. Keep the momentum going with tools like the Intimacy Lifestyle Planner to ensure your sexual intimacy thrives year-round. This Christmas, make time for the most important gift of all—each other. Seven days. No excuses. Just passion, joy, and intimacy with your beloved spouse. A Christmas 7 Day Sex Challenge is one of the most exciting ways to make this holiday season unforgettable! To dive deeper into the 7 Day Sex Challenge, grab our best-selling book 7 Days of Sex Challenge here.