How long has it been since you danced with your spouse? If your answer is your wedding day, and you’ve been married for longer than a month, then this could be the date for you.

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Dancing together as spouses boosts several of your 6 Pillars of Intimacy®. You’ll have to exercise emotional intimacy as you talk through the ups and downs of learning how to dance together.

Physical intimacy comes into play as you hold and touch each other while dancing. And, of course, as you build new memories during this fun date, you can strengthen your recreational intimacy.

Even if you’ve danced together recently, you can always benefit from some pointers or lessons.

There are three ways you and your spouse can brush up on your steps or learn some new ones, so let’s get started!

Learning How to Dance With Free Tutorials

The quickest, least expensive, and most private option is to use free online tutorials, such as those found on YouTube.

YouTube can be a mixed bag when it comes to tutorials, so look for channels that have a high number of subscribers, a lot of videos, and a high like count on those videos.

While this is not a foolproof method, it does give you a place to start.

For example, when you type “dance lessons for beginners” into the search bar, you’ll probably find lessons for Swing, Hip Hop, Salsa, Ballroom Dancing, and more. If you don’t know what type of dancing you’d like, this is a great way to begin.

Watch a few tutorials and see which style you and your spouse want to learn. If you already know you want to learn salsa, type “salsa lessons for beginners,” and you’ll have an excellent selection.

The great thing about video lessons is that you can pause and try the steps together before moving on to the next step. You can rewind if you need to and rewatch the videos as often as you like.

Keep in mind that some of these channels may offer a paid course for more detailed lessons.

PRO TIP: Click on the three dots to the right of a video to save it to your “watch later” playlist so you won’t lose it. Better yet, create a playlist just for dancing videos. You can also click “like” on the video to save it to your “liked videos” playlist.

Here are a couple of YouTube channels to get you started:

Learning How to Dance with an Online Course

Another way you can learn in the privacy of your own home is to purchase an online course.

The benefit of this method is that you can get a complete course, usually specializing in one specific type of dance.

Within this option, there are two types of online courses available.

There are lessons offered by online dance studios, such as Dance From Home or DancePlug. But there are also courses offered through general online learning centers, such as Skillshare or Udemy. These last two do not specialize in dance, but the teachers who teach their dance classes do.

Whichever route you choose, you have all the benefits of other tutorial videos, but you also have the confidence of knowing that your instructors are experts in their fields and that you’re getting more than just a few moves.

Learning How to Dance With an Instructor

Now, if you really want to up your dance game, you and your spouse may want to go all out and hire an instructor.

There are in-person group lessons or private lessons just for you and your spouse.

You can look for websites, such as TakeLessons or, that match you with local instructors in your area. Some instructors will travel to your home, and others have studios you can go to instead.

And there’s always the good ol’ search engine to find a qualified instructor to teach you and your spouse how to dance.

Dance Your Way to a Stronger Marriage

Once you’ve decided how you and your spouse would like to learn to dance, what will you do with your newfound skill?

You can have dance dates in your own home, dance at parties, or kick up your heels at the next concert or event in your area. Who knows?

Maybe you can be the couple who brings dancing back to your church meet-up, Knights of Columbus Hall, or state fair!

No matter how you choose to use your dancing skills, you can know that learning how to dance with your spouse has strengthened your marriage in more ways than one.

Watch the video below to rekindle the spark and restore the connection in your marriage today!

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