double standards

720: DOUBLE STANDARDS

“Don’t tell your spouse they can’t do something and then turn around and do it yourself. Double standards aren’t fair to anyone.” —Emily Smith Merriam Webster defines a double standard as a set of principles that applies differently and usually more rigorously to one group of people or circumstances than to another. This happens in…
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alcohol and intimacy

719: ALCOHOL AND INTIMACY

“Alcohol is a perfect solvent. It destroys marriages, families and careers.” —Anonymous Did you know a study by the University at Buffalo Research Institute on Addictions (RIA) determined a marriage is more likely to end in divorce if one party is a heavy drinker? Of course, a “heavy drinker” is defined as six or more…
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future

717: WHAT IF YOU COULD CHANGE THE FUTURE

“Nothing we do can change the past but everything we do can change the future.” —Ashleigh Brillant It doesn’t matter if you’ve been married for a month or for 50 years, you can reflect on where you’ve been and you can make a choice on what your future will look like. To do this, you…
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unvoiced expectation

716: SOLVING THE PROBLEM OF UNVOICED EXPECTATIONS

“People cannot live up to expectations they don’t know have been set for them.” —Rory Vaden Sometimes, husbands and wives become extremely frustrated with one another. The frustration can take many forms and yet some things you may have heard and said are…
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focused

715: WHAT ARE WE FOCUSED ON

“You don’t get results by focusing on the results. You get results by focusing on the actions that produce the results.” —Mike Hawkins Losing focus is so easy to do. Between kids, work, chores and more, it’s easy to see why your focus can be drawn away from other important things in your life. But…
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words hurt

712: WHEN WORDS HURT

“We’ve all been hurt by words before so before you speak think about how your words might affect your spouse.” —Anonymous Words. They can do so much. The words that tear down, the ones that hurt, the words that cause doubt and fear and insecurity. The words you say to each other can have a…
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anxiety

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU OR YOUR SPOUSE STRUGGLES WITH ANXIETY

These last couple of years have been a challenge. Like so many, you have probably experienced some stress or worry because of the craziness and uncertainty of the pandemic, inflation, political unease, and their implications. When you or your spouse experience anxiety and worry more days than not, it can strain and weaken the closeness…
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playing our song

708: THEY’RE PLAYING OUR SONG

“Humming our song reminds me of when we fell in love.” —Anonymous Music is amazing. It can change your mood, get you excited, or make you relaxed. Music is attached to special moments, and sometimes the lyrics of a song feel more like part of your life’s story, or as if they wrote it about…
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