“A great marriage is a union of two great forgivers.” —Ruth Bell Graham

Asking people to define the purpose of marriage will get you a lot of different answers. You’ll hear things like:

  • Procreation
  • Companionship
  • To be like Christ
  • To have a Sugar Daddy or Mama

Now if you look at the Bible for the definition of marriage you’ll see:

“But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. —Mark 10:6-8 (NIV)

As a society we struggle with this concept of becoming one. Often there is talk of oneness but that’s just a strong feeling. Becoming one is really about acting as one, becoming unified.

This is a challenging concept in a world that is “me” focused and not “we” focused.

Our culture says that you should find the man or woman of your dreams. And yet becoming one in marriage is really about finding the one whose dreams you will fulfill.

When you choose to do this in the bedroom, you can have the holy sex you were designed to have. It’s exactly the way that God intended you to enjoy each other.

Marriage is the only relationship that you commit to for life. Your kids will grow and leave home. Jobs will change. If your marriage is strong, if it’s unified as one, everything else will fall into place.

There are two things every couple should adhere to:

Be each other’s biggest fan (and tell this to each other often).

Remember to laugh. Life is so serious and we can easily get stuck. Laughter softens the heart, it feels good and it immediately changes the atmosphere.

Marriage is a journey, not a destination. Don’t ever stop working together.

Jay and Laura Laffoon are an incredible husband and wife team. After meeting on a blind date in 1984, their brief courtship has since transformed into a daily marital celebration. The Laffoons are real people with real lives walking through a real marriage.  They like to call themselves “marriage edu-tainers”, combining education with entertainment. 

Learn more about Jay & Laura Laffoon.

Other Resources:

Celebrate Your Marriage: 365 Daily Readings for Couples

He Said. She Said.: Eight Powerful Phrases That Will Strengthen Your Marriage

Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa

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  1. I didn’t have time to watch the video right now, so I don’t know if Ephesians 5 came up at all, but allow me a moment. Paul spends several (familiar) verses talking about submission and headship and ends with these words (v32): This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.

    A mystery that has been hidden from His people from the beginning of time until now. A Christian marriage is supposed to mirror Christ’s relationship with his people, the church! The way a husband serves his wife and the way a wife submits to his leadership reflect His sacrifice and love for us, and our submission to Him.

    But yeah, sex is pretty awesome too.