GOING DEEPER: HOW TO GET ORGANIZED WHEN YOUR SPOUSE DOESN’T WANT TO

“Organization happens in your mind 6-18 months before you see it in your space.” —Lisa Woodruff

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The problem with clutter or a messy space is a that it’s not just one person’s problem when you’re married.

Disorganization creates conflict between couples.

“Clean up your mess.”

“Why can’t you even put anything away?”

“Why is this house so messy?”

Home organizer Lisa Woodruff is quick to share that the solution to getting organized isn’t hours on Pinterest trying to find the perfect room or spending a few hundred dollars on containers and organizational systems but rather:

  • Realize the phase of life you are in. (Every decade has its own unique challenges.)
  • Identify your organizational needs.
  • Declutter things OUT of your life.
  • Decide on your future goals.

The other key… #whatcanido.

This is what it boils down, in getting your home organized and in making a difference in your marriage, it all comes back to “What can you do?”

  • You can choose to work on 1 room at a time. Trying to organize the whole house at once just makes you feel crazy.
  • You can choose not to tell everyone else what to do but instead to lead by example.
  • You can choose to give yourself the gift of time. Let’s face it you didn’t get here overnight. Give yourself time to make change.
  • You can choose to start.

No one else is going to make you a more organized person and it’s OK if you weren’t born that way. You can learn to be intentional about this area of your life.

As Lisa shares in this interview, according to a Pugh Research study, we spend 18 hours a week on home maintenance (that’s all the things that have to get done to make it through the week).

How much is your disorganization costing your marriage?

What would it look like and feel like for you to do what you can, help out when you can and partner with your spouse to create an environment you are both happy to come home to?

Sounds extraordinary!

Lisa Woodruff is a home organization expert, productivity specialist and author of The Mindset of Organization, Take Back Your House One Phase at a Time, & How ADHD Affects Home Organization. Lisa believes organization is not a skill you are born with. It is a skill that is developed over time and changes with each season of life.  Lisa has helped thousands of women reclaim their homes and finally get organized with her practical tips, encouragement and humor through her blog and podcast at Organize365.

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