One sunny fall morning in Southern California my beautiful wife stepped onto a bright orange cruiser bike as I saddled a red one to go for a joy ride around Coronado.
The thing is I really didn’t want to ride a cruiser around the island. See I’ve been a huge road cyclist for 26 years and the thought of cruising wasn’t really something that was on the top of my list to do.
Boy was I wrong!
As we stepped off and began to ride away from the bike rental store a smile spread across my face. Looking back I could see one on Alisa’s face as the wind blew her hair back.
Within the first few blocks the laid back, easy going pace was finding favor with me. Unlike getting on a road bike there was no care in the world. Really all we had to be aware of was making the correct turns. Not to hard with a map in our possession and many other folks out doing the same thing.
Lessons Learned While Pedaling a Cruiser
Lead with Passion
In the first few blocks I was wanting to ride side-by-side or with Alisa in front of me. For me it was either we were in this together or I wanted to make sure she was going the right way.
While riding over the course of the hour we rode side-by-side for a very short time and never did Alisa ride in front of me.
It was as we rode like this that I realized that I needed to lead our adventure. This was fine with me and yet I have come to see that this is also true in our marriage. I need to Man Up to lead with passion in my marriage.
This means I need to be the one who is leading us in our daily prayer time. I’ve slacked off and now know that it’s me who needs to lead with passion in this area so that we have this special time together.
Leave Everything Behind
Mentally that is. It’s so easy to bring all the chatter along no matter where I am. This is usually disruptive when what needs to happen is to focus on Alisa.
The ability to cruise and enjoy the scenery (Downtown San Diego, Coronado Bridge, beautiful homes, surfer and the Pacific Ocean) kept my mind on the present moment with Alisa rather than the worry or anxiety I’ve been carrying with me.
Each pedal stroke left the mental chatter behind, which allowed me to fully engage Alisa and the moment we were sharing together.
Appreciate the Journey
Unlike the way I ride my road bike with mileage goals, avg speed, total elevation gained, etc this ride got me to appreciate the journey.
Even in 60 minutes there is growth that happens in our lives. The time that Alisa and I spent together allowed me to realize that jumping on a cruiser is a way for us to journey together for many years to come.
As you thrive to have an extraordinary marriage, saddle up on a cruiser and take a ride.
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What fun recreational activity have you done with your spouse that taught you a lesson about your marriage?