3 QUICK TIPS TO A SCREAMFREE DISCUSSION IN 15 MINUTES OR LESS

Let’s face it… having a long drawn out argument does nothing for the health of your marriage.

3 QUICKTips to aScreamfreeDiscussionin 15 Minutesor Less

If anything it pulls you a part and causes more friction. Afterwards you’re both drained from the emotional and mental toll it has on you.

We used to have these types of arguments in our marriage. Not only would the argument drain us, but the aftermath would leave a wake for days if not weeks after.

Over time we realized that this was not the best way for us to live our lives and grow as a couple. Years ago we began to intentionally change how we would have discussions.

Little by little we found that if these discussions were quick and we stayed focused we would have screamfree discussion in less than fifteen minutes.

Plus… there would be no lingering pieces that we had to worry about or deal with later on.

Get ready because it’s time for you to have these same screamfree discussions with your spouse.

3 Quick Tips to a Screamfree Discussion in 15 Minutes or Less

TOPIC

Be clear on your topic if you are talking about finances don’t bring up the in-laws. 

If you are talking about your sex life, it’s not the time to be talking about parenting skills.

Focus on the one area that needs to be addressed and that’s it!

TONE

You know that there is a big difference between…

“Have a NICE day!”

and

“HAVE a nice day!”

How you speak to your spouse matters. The inflections in your voice, the words that you choose, and the volume (low or high) impact how they react to you.

Do you want more effective communication?

Be aware of the tone that you are giving your spouse. Is it one that is inviting and opens up the conversation OR is it one that leads to a fight and shuts down the conversation.

TIMING

When you have your discussion can sometimes be even more important than what you talk about.

Catching your spouse as they are running out the door, having that serious conversation right before bed, or trying to talk while the kids are running all over the two of you are not the most effective times.

Being intentional about your conversations will lead to more peaceful, screamfree discussions.

Your marriage can be what you want it to be. Stretch yourself and use the tips above to stop the screaming. For more communication how-to tips check out He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path.

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