Sex Toys for Beginners

Whether you’re a newlywed or decades into marriage, introducing something new into the bedroom can pose a lot of questions. What if it’s awkward? Or what if my spouse isn’t open to the idea? Sex toys can feel extra daunting, especially for “beginners” who have never used them before.

Nearly half of the married couples we surveyed said they haven’t tried sex toys. But among the 52% who have, the results were anything but boring.

Whether you’re looking to break out of a rut, try something new, or simply deepen your connection, these sex toy bundles offer an easy, exciting way to begin.

Why Consider Sex Toys in Your Marriage?

Remember when sexual intimacy felt fun, spontaneous, and electric? Sex toys help bring that spark back by shaking up your routines and creating shared moments of exploration and discovery.

Plus, over the years, your desires will change. Toys can help you:

• Learn what feels good now (not just what worked in the past)
• Try new things together without pressure
• Keep your sex life satisfying and exciting

From mismatched libidos to stress and physical changes, life throws you curveballs. That’s why we love the Bedroom Adventure Bundle. It’s the perfect blend of toys that enhance pleasure for both husband and wife.

How to Bring Up the Idea (Without the Awkwardness)

We get it. Talking about sex toys with your spouse can be nerve-wracking, especially if you’ve never tried them before.

Ultimately, only go as far as the most conservative spouse feels comfortable. But you might be surprised how receptive they are to trying something small, especially if it’s framed as an “enhancement” of something you already do.

That said, here are a few ways to start the conversation:

1. Choose the Right Time

Don’t wait until you’re in the bedroom. Talk casually when you’re relaxed, such as on a walk or during a lazy Sunday breakfast. You could start the conversation with a few simple questions:

• “What do you like during sex? What are you curious about?”
• “What’s been missing?“
• “What can we do to create more joy, trust, and connection?”

(These are the conversations that build not just a better sex life but a better marriage!)

2. Think Sprinkles, Not Sundaes

If you feel like your sex life is too “vanilla,“ try adding a few sprinkles. In other words, instead of suggesting a complete overhaul, propose small additions to your current routine.

A beginner-friendly sex toy bundle can be a perfect place to start with approachable, non-intimidating options.

Even if sex toys aren’t on the table just yet, there are still plenty of playful ways to shake things up:

• Sex position dice
• Sexy board games
• Open your eyes during sex
• Discreet sex furniture
• Blindfolds or tie-ups

P.S. If you’re looking for an easy, gentle way to spice things up, sex furniture is amazing! It’s a fun way to enhance your sexual intimacy and try something new together—without any of the intimidation factor that comes with sex toys. Click here to check out our favorite pieces from Liberator.

3. Make a “Yes, No, Maybe“ List Together

Explore your comfort zones together by identifying:

• Yes: Things you’re excited to try
• No: Absolute hard stops
• Maybe: Curious but feeling unsure

This helps both of you feel heard and understood. And remember, respecting your spouse’s comfort zone builds safety and trust, which may help them be open to new ideas in the future.

Ready to Try Sex Toys? Our Top Tips for Beginners

So, your spouse is on board and you’re ready to try something exciting and new together? Great! Here’s what we recommend:

First, browse together. Visit a reputable adult site or store together. Browsing together makes it less awkward, more fun, and builds anticipation. (Here are our favorites.)

Next, start small. If you’ve never used sex toys before, don’t feel like you have to try out every toy at once. Maybe pick just one or two to try. Or select a simple sex toy that’s easy to use. (Tip: If it requires batteries or charging, do that in advance!)

Of course, communicate. Talk before, during, and after using anything new. Ask each other questions like:

• “Did that feel good?”
• “What would you change?“
• “Would you like to try this again?”

Finally, be patient with the process. Don’t expect fireworks on night one. Focus on connection over perfection, and laugh if things don’t go exactly as you expected.

It may take a little while to work out the kinks when adding new tools to your sex life toolbox, and that’s okay!

Grab Our Favorite Sex Toy Bundle

As your marriage goes through different seasons—kids, menopause, career shifts—your sexual intimacy will, too. Don’t just coast through these changes. Get intentional and take action to create the sex life you want!

The Bedroom Adventure Bundle is designed to give you confidence, curiosity, and connection with enjoyable, easy-to-use sex toys. These sex toys are especially great for beginners.

But it’s not just about the toy. It’s about creating the sexual intimacy you both desire—together.

Click here to grab your sexy toy bundle and enhance your sex life today!