Stripped Down is now available and we need your help to get the word out.

The initial feedback we have gotten is that Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage is already having an impact on marriages.  Let it make an impact on yours.

For our first official Stripped Down contest we are giving away the complete Stripped Down package – one (1) Autographed Book , one (1) e-book, and one (1) audio book to one lucky winner ($39.90 value).  It’s easy to enter.  So don’t wait any longer and enter today.

To enter, you must comment below and do one of the following:

1.  Tell us by commenting below on which area of intimacy you want to work on.  Emotional Intimacy, Intellectual Intimacy, Recreational Intimacy, Financial Intimacy, Spiritual Intimacy, or Physical Intimacy.

2. Read the first 80 pages of Stripped Down on Scribd & then rate/review it. One entry for this one.

3.  Retweet this contest. One entry for this one.

4.  Tell your friends about the contest on facebook.  One entry for this one.

Entries will be numbered in the order in which they are received. One (1) being the first post and xyz being the last post. Winner will be chosen by

Contest runs from this posting to Wednesday, July 21st, 2010 at 8pm PST. Anyone 18+ can enter.  Winner announced by the 22st at 10am PST.

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  1. I just wanted to let you guys know that I gave a plug for your book on my blog today as I announced to the world that we are expecting a third child this winter. My wife and I have really benefited from your podcasts and it has put us in a really good position to face the challenges that pregnancy, childbirth and raising another child will bring. Obviously we have done a good job with the physical intimacy and while we continue to maintain the physical intimacy I think we will focus also on our emotional intimacy and intellectual intimacy since it will be very important to share our thoughts, feelings, desires and goals as we strive to keep this good thing going.

  2. Wow – I have to choose one area of intimacy to improve? I would like to choose all but one, but I will go with emotional intimacy. We don't have any. Sometimes I feel like I am dying of loneliness. (I shared this on Facebook and re-Tweeted also – do you already know that?)

  3. Fatdaddyesq – What can we say except we are humbled by your words. I know when you posted the first time on the 7 Days of Sex Challenge that the two of you were working on an extraordinary marriage. Congrats to the two of you on your third child. Yes, I would feel the same way you do as written in you post. I'm sure that all will work out well in the end as it always does.

    I'm glad you are going to work on emotional and intellectual intimacy. Alisa and I are working on this as well. We'll talk more about it in this weeks podcast. Thanks again my friend.

  4. Ah, it's time to break the cycle and start the conversation. I don't know where you are in terms of how long or what is or hasn't been said, but I do know the cycle needs to stop. This is the tough part. How do you stop it? I would approach it as there is a wall between us that needs to come down. It's not going to come down in one conversation, but in many smaller ones. Try to figure out a couple of days a week where the two of you can talk for 15 minutes. The first session may be longer, but after that a 15 minute conversation 3-4 times per week will do wonders. Check out these 77 Questions to get the Conversation Started,

    We will be praying that the two of you can come together and experience the emotional intimacy you so desire. None of us want to be lonely in our marriages.

    Thanks for sharing and I saw your Tweet on Twitter. Blessings.

  5. We want to work on emotional and spiritual intimacy. If we get those going, the physical should get better. BTW, got the book on Friday and we love it.

  6. I am not sure how to narrow it down. When I started listening to your podcasts at the beginning I would have said we had an above average marriage in most areas. Over the time I have really started thinking deeper on each of these areas and they all need some work….. probably mostly from me.

    I know it is not one of the listed ones, but is probably part of almost all of them. What I know I need to work on the most is time. I get too busy and just don't spend enough time with my wife. If I honestly looked at it, it is probably the single most reason for most of the other issues we have.

  7. I agree with post made below that if we can work on emotional and spiritual intimacy then our physical intimacy will also increase, they are all connected.

  8. I'm with you on this Kent. When we spend time with our wives in other areas of intimacy it is my experience that we have amazing physical/sexual intimacy. We agree that we need to spend more time in spiritual intimacy as well and have decided on taking 2 nights a week for about 15 minutes each to read Stripped Down and other books and then pray.

    Glad you love the book we look forward to you joining us for the Small Group Podcast.

  9. Tim – You hit the nail on the head. Each of the 6 forms of intimacy take time. We need to carve out that time so that our spouses understand and realize that our marriage is important to us. Like I mentioned to Kent I don't think it has to be these long 2+ hour conversations every week, but I believe if we set aside 15 minutes 2-3 times per week we would see a major difference in our spouse.

    Alisa and I had to sit down to determine what would work for us and we have 2 nights that we will be doing just this.

  10. So, the big question is then how will you and your spouse spend time in your emotional and spiritual intimacy. Make a point to put it on the calendar. It's like mine and Alisa's Intimacy Lifestyle. If we didn't have that we were going to have sex twice a week we wouldn't. By having the Intimacy Lifestyle it keeps both of us accountable to each other. If you need some question to get the conversation started click the Resource tab for 77 Questions that will help you out.

  11. Ryan – We are happy to inform you that you won the Stripped Down Bundle. Could you please email us your email address and shipping address to info(at)oneextraordinarymarriage(dot)com. We'll get everything out to you as soon as we get your info.