VALENTINE’S DAY RANT

I’m not into Valentine’s Day. Never have been and I don’t think I ever will.

It’s a Hallmark holiday in my opinion. Something put on our calendar to make us feel compelled to show our love, usually with gifts, to the one that matters most.

Our spouse.

My question is, shouldn’t we be showing our love  to our spouse everyday? Why is it that we need a Hallmark holiday to do this?

Here are 5 loving ideas for you to show your love to your spouse throughout the year.

1. Give a compliment when they least expect it. When was the last time you mentioned how beautiful your wife looks?  How about how well your husband barbecued dinner?

2. Spend time together. This isn’t just any time at home doing the chores, but quality time where the two of you are engaged in conversation, playing a board game, or walking along the beach.  Where can the two of you spend time together?

3. A little something that says I Love You. Even I realize that it would be marital suicide if I didn’t show my love to Alisa with a little something now and again.  If the urge strikes you go for it.  I like to go low key, a single flower, a home made card, or something small that shows my love for my wife.  What could you do to say I Love You through out the year?

4. Let me serve you. I like being served, but it is when I can serve Alisa with a loving heart that I’m transformed and our marriage explodes.  When I take the house old chores off of her plate it is amazing to see how that changes her outlook.  What can you do to serve your spouse?

5. Touches that make a difference. These are non-sexual touches that bring you closer together.  A hug, a kiss, holding hands, anything that has you sharing that physical touch.  There are many times that I will just give Alisa a hug in the middle of the kitchen, just because I love her.  What touches can spark excitement in your marriage?

I share this with you because I think there is so much emphasis put on one day that we forget the other 364 days of the year mean a lot too.  Get going and love everyday because everyday is Valentine’s Day.

~Tony

I wanted to put my two cents in just in case some of you were wondering how I feel about his Valentine’s Day attitude…The truth is this, since I put more emphasis on my husband instead of my children and my never ending to do list, I have a husband who does something for me every day.  It might be as simple as washing the dishes or as romantic as leaving love notes headed to the bedroom where the mood has been set.  Either way, I know, every day that I am loved, and quite honestly don’t feel as if I am missing anything on Valentine’s Day.  Cherish your spouse through out the year and every day can be Valentine’s Day.

~Alisa