It’s been one of those days again. You and your spouse have been side stepping each other as you want to talk and yet you don’t have anything to talk about.
When you do begin to talk it’s either about work, kids, church, groceries, the to-do list or something that doesn’t add any depth to your marriage.
You’re going crazy!
The surface talk has gone on for so long that both of you ask yourselves, “What do we talk about?”.
These five words strike fear in you. Especially since you’ve gotten out of the habit of really talking to one another.
Take a deep breath. We are going to walk you through this so that you can experience deeper more intimate conversations with your spouse.
Make Time To Talk
In the craziness of your day-to-day you need to understand that in order for your relationship to grow it must be fed. In other words for your marriage to grow you must invest in it.
You must make the time to be with your spouse, listen when they talk and to learn what is going on with them both the good and the bad.
Step Out of the Box
Typically you’re having the same conversations in the same places. You know where these talks are taking place. They may be in your kitchen, living room, bedroom, office, etc.
You’re stuck in a rut!
Get away from these areas as you step out of the box to a place where both of you can relax and share from the heart.
Ask & Answer
Start from the beginning again. Ask and answer the most basic of questions. We know this sounds odd, but you have to step forward from a place where you will have success.
- What’s your favorite color?
- What type of food is your favorite?
- Share a fond memory from your childhood.
- What was your first car?
Continue asking and answering these questions. If the conversations starts to go toward work, kids, church, the to-do list, etc. stop immediately and ask your spouse the next question.
Asking and answering questions can be awkward. If you are not sure how-to get the conversation started then the COUPLE Communication Method is a simple way for you and your spouse to get your communication on the same path.
You can have an extraordinary marriage by having grown up conversations. For your marriage that begins with these three steps. Communication is the lifeblood of your marriage where you share your ideas, frustrations, dreams, and desires.
As you begin to communicate more you will deepen your sexual connection, spiritual bond, and put your financial house in order.
It’s time to stop asking “What do we talk about?” and start asking questions that will allow fun conversations to flow between the two of you.
For more advice on how to strengthen your marriage, check out Connect Like You Did When You First Met today!