708: THEY’RE PLAYING OUR SONG

“Humming our song reminds me of when we fell in love.” —Anonymous

Music is amazing. It can change your mood, get you excited, or make you relaxed. Music is attached to special moments, and sometimes the lyrics of a song feel more like part of your life’s story, or as if they wrote it about you.

Music brings together all the emotions that you’ve experienced in your lives, sometimes in just one song.

Your song as a couple may bring back a flood of memories and emotions, too. There “playing our song” is something you may have even said out loud!

For instance, “Strangers in the Night”, our wedding song, sums up the beginning of a relationship for so many.

Strangers in the night, two lonely people
We were strangers in the night
Up to the moment when we said our first hello
Little did we know
Love was just a glance away, a warm embracing dance away
And ever since that night
We’ve been together
Lovers at first sight
In love forever
It turned out so right
For strangers in the night…

But why does this happen?

First, a little science, according to an article on music, memory and emotion, music is important in the construction of our memories. Music evokes powerful emotions and emotions enhance the memory process. So these songs weren’t just 4-5 minutes on your wedding day.

And now, that song can transport you back in time, to transport you to that moment when the two of you heard the music, and lived that experience:

• How you felt your love was worth trying for and fighting for
• It was the song that he sang to her when he proposed
• The song you sang together or danced to at your wedding
• It captured the depth of love you have for each other perfectly

It is this song that also builds so many intimacies as you move forward together.

Playing those songs, looking at the lyrics, remembering why is an opportunity to deepen your emotional intimacy.

Songs also affect your physical and recreational intimacy. You may find yourself holding hands, kissing and, dare we say, making out or even making love to those songs that were so impactful to the two of you.

You may even decide to dance together, recreating that fun and the power of the memory all over again.

Your song is powerful and can be another tool in your marriage toolbox. This week, find it on your favorite playlist, push play and spend a little time reminiscing, holding each other close and dancing with one another. It’s all about the two of you.

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