“Seeing things from a different point of view can help us understand why people act the way they do. We too often judge people without having all the facts.” —Sean Covey

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Not everyone has the same views about sex. Although you want it a handful of times each week your spouse may want it a couple of times. There can also be a gray area that’s based upon a “I can take it or leave it” approach. 

As with many areas in your marriage, it is completely possible that you and your spouse view sex in your marriage differently. It’s these different views on sex that can impact each of you in unexpected ways.

From creating hard to manage expectations to feelings of being unwanted, varying opinions can be exhausting for couples. When you have different views of sex it can lead to arguments, frustration, and sadness. 

Both “Extraordinary” and “Excuses” cannot coexist. You have to decide which one you want for your life and your marriage.

When you choose extraordinary, it means you will need to be on the same team including your sexual intimacy.

When you chose to have important conversations around sex you begin to better understand one another instead of judging each other based on your own perceptions and expectations. 

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  • It means working toward connection instead of away from it.
  • This means having hard conversations even when you don’t want to.
  • Which gets you out of your comfort zone to address the build up tension.

You need to work together to navigate your differences and through these conversations, gain a better understanding of each other. Being different isn’t a negative in your marriage but an opportunity to learn, grow, and understand more about each other.

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