Your diet isn’t only what you eat. It is what you watch, what you listen to, what you read and the people you hang around. Be mindful of the things that you put into your body spiritually, physically and emotionally.” —Anonymous

Media is an array of platforms for messages to be distributed –  both good and bad (and sometimes odd). We need to be intentional about how we let media influence us and our marriages.

When we tune out of reality and tune our minds into mass-media, we are taking in thoughts about what marriage is supposed to be like. How arguments are supposed to resolve. How sexual intimacy should look like. And even on reality TV shows, this is not only not reality, but also a long cry from what marriage was designed to be.

What is being broadcast and popular today is getting further and further from it’s design. We see relationships (and often not even marriages) that are promiscuous, flirty, non-exclusive, easy or dysfunctional. This highlights the gap that exists between Hollywood (said liberally) and our real-life marriages. No wonder so many people are disillusioned with their marriages.

Why do we choose to escape our lives to watch this kind of junk?

Tony likes coffee. Especially espresso. And he got into the habit of getting Starbucks® Double Shot. And it was great, until it became the norm, and no longer had the energizing effect. So Tony made a bold move — to give it up cold turkey.

In the same way, giving up something that has become routine has an eye-opening impact. You see it for what it really is.

We’re not saying to go off the grid and become a hermit; but we do challenge you to pull the proverbial plug. You’ll realize the situations that drive you to turn something on, the changes in your conversation before bedtime, and what you are searching for in your free time.

The truth is that our sex is not always steamy. Our marriage is not always extremely passionate. But we are satisfied and thriving because we have chosen a vision for our marriage and we are mindful not to expect the fictitious empty promises that storytellers sell us over the airwaves.

489: Media And Marriage: Part 1 — What Are You Listening To?

491: Media And Marriage: Part 2 — What Are You Watching?

493: Media And Marriage: Part 3 — Where Are You Scrolling?


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