“People with good intentions make promises. People with good character keep them.” —Anonymous

In the series “Our Marriage Vows” we are stripping away all of the circumstantial topics that get put onto marriages, and diving deep into the core of what marriage is. Maybe you’re like Alisa who, on her wedding day, said her vows as a formality — because she was excited to get to the good stuff — the party. What she has realized and wishes she knew then was the vows WERE the “good stuff”.

In Part 1 – “I Take You”, we focus on how the words we speak in our vows are a covenant predicated upon two names: yours and your spouse’s. No one, and nothing else is listed on the covenant. We get into trouble as we go through years of marriage and add in other activities, people, and relationships. The only one you vowed before God to be committed to is your spouse.

People with good intentions make promises. People with good character keep them.

Your marriage vows are probably the only covenant you’ve ever entered into. If you find yourself approaching your spouse asking them what they are doing for you, you have probably fallen into the trap of treating your marriage like a contract. Listen to Covenant or Contract for more on this.

How you handle these words is a test of each person’s character. It’s not what your spouse is going to do for you, but what you will do for your spouse. Your “taking them” is intended to be independent of how they make you feel.

You better do more than think about your vows. They are meant to be lived out. Maybe you need to re-read them. Print them out. Hang them in your bedroom. Remind your spouse today that you take them.

174: Covenant or Contract

479: Our Marriage Vows Part 1 — I Take You

481: Our Marriage Vows Part 2 — To Have And To Hold

483: Our Marriage Vows Part 3 — For Richer, For Poorer

485: Our Marriage Vows Part 4 — For Better or Worse

487: Our Marriage Vows Part 5 — As Long As Life Shall Last

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